I have a hypothesis that there is a place on the neurological spectrum between ADHD and Autism which explains the inner life and functioning of a great many people. My experience has been primarily with women, which is the reason for this piece's title. In my experience with Autistic and ADHD boys and men, their symptoms tend to align nicely with the criteria detailed in the DSM, which makes sense since the bulk of the defining research has been conducted on them. However, it is possible that men will relate to these neurodiverse traits as well. And my use of gendered terminology in no way excludes genderfluid or diverse people from engaging with this work.
This is my answer to my field's practice of diagnosing human conditions via their observable facets. An individual's neurological functioning is often intentionally concealed in order to survive our society's institutional expectations. I have used this chart to honor internal experience above observable behavior in order to help people recognize these traits in themselves or to exclude neurodivergence as the source of their challenges.